at just the right time can be used as a reinforcement to a newly learned lesson or a behavior that is just unacceptable. I am sold on spanking, not hitting a child. There is a huge difference, one is done in anger and the other with the intent on raising a productive memeber of society. I feel that if there was continued beatings, or using like a belt or something really crazy, then that is going a bit old school and should never happen anymore. An open hand to the butt of your child one time to say "No, don't do this, this brings consequence" isn't a bad thing in my view. The bottom line for me is a moment of pain is well worth enduring to grow up to be a good man.
Saturday, March 19, 2011
To Spank or not to Spank.... That is the question
My parents hit me.... Yeah, it sounds terrible, but as a child I didn't see anything wrong with it. It didn't feel wrong and truthfully after about 5 minutes I don't even think that it was registered under the "why i hate my parents" list. Now when I say that my parents hit me, I don't mean that they balled up their fist and gave me a "To the moon, Alice" Haymaker blow to the chops. Nope, they gave me a spank on the butt and then restated to me why it had happened. Invariably I had either done something really wrong or talked my brothers into doing something that they of course got caught doing..... So looking back, when we set the kitchen floor on fire because we were acting out "Indiana Jones and the Temple of Doom" would it have been effective if we had just been given a stern talking to? I really don't think so... So now that I have a son, am I going to spank him? He is 8 months old and of course I'm not going to be spanking him anytime soon. When he is old enough to understand right and wrong though, a paddle to the hind end is as good as reinforcer as we as parents have at our disposal. In this day and age, being sent to the room is no punishment at all, heck , it might even be a nice break for them. Finally they would be able to catch up on their own blog or Halo game. But giving a spank at just the right time can be used as a reinforcement to a newly learned lesson or a behavior that is just unacceptable. I am sold on spanking, not hitting a child. There is a huge difference, one is done in anger and the other with the intent on raising a productive memeber of society. I feel that if there was continued beatings, or using like a belt or something really crazy, then that is going a bit old school and should never happen anymore. An open hand to the butt of your child one time to say "No, don't do this, this brings consequence" isn't a bad thing in my view. The bottom line for me is a moment of pain is well worth enduring to grow up to be a good man.
at just the right time can be used as a reinforcement to a newly learned lesson or a behavior that is just unacceptable. I am sold on spanking, not hitting a child. There is a huge difference, one is done in anger and the other with the intent on raising a productive memeber of society. I feel that if there was continued beatings, or using like a belt or something really crazy, then that is going a bit old school and should never happen anymore. An open hand to the butt of your child one time to say "No, don't do this, this brings consequence" isn't a bad thing in my view. The bottom line for me is a moment of pain is well worth enduring to grow up to be a good man.
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